Friendship plays a vital role in every aspect of human life. If you have a friend who is trustworthy, you feel a sense of joy and happinness inside of you. A feeling that is strong and also gives a sense of belonging. Furthermore, a true friend also considerably helps you build confidence.
Due to these traits, friendship is considered as the most powerful bond among all human bonds. And when it comes to strengthening bonds, good friends help you to mature and develop an overwhelming sense of achievement, you feel as if you can anything if you’re friends are with you. Good friends confide in you, give good advice, encourage you to do good and abstain from something that can be damaging to you life in the long run. And this is what truly strenghtens the bond.. The same can be said about the special bond of friendship between brothers and sisters.
From Imam Ghazali’s Bidayatul Hidayah (The Beginning of Guidance):
Concerning your brethren & friends, you have two tasks: You should first consider the stipulations of companionship and friendship so that you will establish the relationship of brotherhood only with those who are fit for brotherhood & friendship. The Messenger of God (pbuh) said:
“A man is considered by God to be of the religion of his intimate friend (khalil) so let each of you consider whom he has taken for an intimate friend.”
If two brothers or sisters indulge in friendship, their bonds become stronger than anything. The article will discuss the role of friendship in deepening bonds among siblings.
The role of friendship in human life cannot be disputed. Even stranger is the fact that any two individuals can be friends irrespective of thier a backgrounds, social or moral values among other things.
For example, you can have a friend from a different social background, different religion and moral values and even different profession than yours, yet you two can become the best of friends.
Additionally, there is no rule of thumb as with whom you want to be friends with or not. Philosophically, the bond of friendship cannot be defined by worldly aspects, perspective or ideologies.
In simple words, your best friend can be anyone, from any background, without a distinction. However, not everyone can be a trusted as a true friend.
Trust is the most important component in a friendship bond. The strange part of the equation is that a lasting friendship can potentially make two friends trust each other as if they are siblings.
The Role of Friendship in Shaping Stronger Bonds
The bond of friendship can bring the best person out of you. Your true friend motivates you in testing times, celebrates your happiness and weeps in your sorrow.
No other humanly bond can carve so much vitality as friendship does. Due to these traits, the bond of friendship qualifies as the only bond that can challenge blood relations such as siblings, cousins and relatives.
Exactly how the bond of friendship grows so strong t is not yet known, what is known i that friendship helps you in cultivating stronger bonds. Due to this strength, your best friend can be as trustworthy as your brother/ sister.
The Role of Developing Strong Bonds among Siblings
Often, siblings do not feel comfortable while discussing things. Although such rivalry can begin at any stage of life, it has been observed that they tend to form from an early age, often as a result of negligence by parents.
Either girls or boys, rivalry and jealousy can take its course, often on small things such as clothes, academics and even on friendships. Although parents should make sure rivalry remains positive, still siblings can indulge in competition amongst themselves.
Once their relationship soars, chances are that it remains the same way for life. Such negative rivalries and competition can be dealt with if friendship is promoted.
The fact is that siblings, who are friendly with each other, trust more and remain positive. Additionally, they celebrate each other’s successes instead of showing jealousy and envy.
The role of parents is significant in this respect, they must never discriminate between boys and girls because discrimination gives room to negative rivalry, while inevitably resulting in envy.
Respect the Differences
One common mistake that many parents make is that they don’t provide thier children with the room they need to grow and broaden thier horizons and look past trivial rivalries. This is particularly the case among traditional societies. Parents hold their traditions higher than their children’s preferences, likes and dislikes.
While they successfully fulfill their traditional duties, they miserably fail in their responsibilities as parents. Furthermore, let your children create their own identity instead of chasing after something that you want them to become.
Naturally, your children are created different, they have different habits, likes and dislikes and preferences, so let them live the way they want. However, you must support their “De-Identification” from one another.
De-Identification is when a child craves for his/her own identity instead of following the sibling’s route. If your child is keeping a distance, doing things he feels good about, let him do it.
Summarily, respect and trust are two of the most important components in friendship. Friendship is a bond that adds positivity and strength to any relation it connects with. We’ll end with a hadith of the Prophet Muhammad (saw):
An-Nu’man ibn Basheer reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “The example of the believers in their affection, mercy, and compassion for each other is that of a body. When any limb aches, the whole body reacts with sleeplessness and fever.”
Source: Sahih Bukhari 5665, Sahih Muslim 2586